I have a little bit of a problem ~ I looked in on the chat room tonight and one of the members was having a hard time and was saying that they wanted to use.

I asked a few questions like when was the last time they had gone to a meeting, etc...One of the members said that a lot of folk were talking AA jargon and that most people are hyprocrits.

I go to chat rooms so that I can try to help others who are having a hard time or just to chat with people. I explained my daily routine of making a promise to myself every day and reading our text. I was told that I have the perfect sobriety and that I should make a movie.

I indicated that I am not perfect and that I have bad days like everyone else and that I am only an arms length away from a drug or drink.

If we are going to put each other down in the chat, how are we going to help the still suffering addict / alcholic. We have to get our priorities straight here. Are we responsible or not? I know  that I have been given a great gift and if I can pass it along, then so be it. Lets work together here and not against each other, OKAY?

Hi Ducmom,  This is a good place and great chat rooms. From all the recovery sites I have been to one this is the best one around and any trouble started is nipped in the bud really fast. The admin here work really hard at keeping it a safe place, I know this first hand. Not everyone is going to agree with each other, listen to suggestions, or be nice, just as in face to face. But if there is trouble or if someone is bothering you email Recovery Realm about it at recoveryrealm@yahoo.com and let them know the name of the person who is bothering you or anyone else.  And also you can redline someone if need be so that you can not see what they are saying nor get private messages from them. To learn how to use the redline just see the post called "USING THE REDLINE IN CHAT" by Carol under the announcements forum.

Hello Ducmom,

I'm sorry you had such an experience. We do our best here at Recovery Realm to make this a safe chatting experience for all. It's a shame that some people act the way they do behind the safety of their computer monitors!

Kim gave some good suggestions. If you could email recoveryrealm, we can look into the situation.

I hope to see you in the room again soon!

Ducmom,

For about an hour before you came into the room last night, many of us tried to help the person who had said they wanted to use.  We too, were met with sarcasm and criticism.  The person said they had given up on AA and NA, and admitted they were "bitchy".  Another person, in the room at the time, has made several comments in the past that were decidedly anti-AA, although it appears he/she has never been to a meeting.

Whether online or offline, it's difficult to help someone who doesn't want help, or doesn't want to listen to suggestions.  And, just as in life offline, there are those who do not subscribe to AA philosophy.  At that point, all we can do is pray and hope that those folks get the help they need from whatever source works for them. Until then, the rooms of AA and Recovery Realm are open to them in case they decide they want what we have.

As you will see from other posts on the message forum, the members of Recovery Realm have all consistently shown their willingness to help newcomers and those who are suffering.  Some listen to suggestions, others don't, but we always offer a message of hope.