The great enemy of a clear message is the insincere use of words. People often don't say what they mean or mean what they say. We can employ words to conceal our thoughts and motives. Words can help us move forward or keep us paralyzed. We can deflect words by trivialization. Or manipulate by use of ritualized respect. Our choice of language and tone relate to how we live our lives.
If we're truly living as we claim, it shows. If we're insincere and untrustworthy, at some point that becomes obvious. We can only pretend to live by principles for so long. Do our insides match our outside? A nice car, house, or a high paying job may make us more comfortable, but they do nothing to improve who we are. What we feel, say and do determine who we are and what we will become. Do we keep or betray trust? Do we treat friendship as a sanctity or a weapon? Do we pass judgments and spread them to others? Do we ignore some people, with full intent, out of jealousy, fear, or revenge. Life's about who we love, who we hurt and who we make happy or unhappy purposefully. Everyone that comes into our life has a purpose. We can use our life to touch or poison other hearts in ways that could never occur alone. Only we choose the way those hearts are affected ~with our words and actions.

You don't have to tell how you live each day.
You don't have to say if you work or play.
A tried, true barometer serves in this place;
However you live, it will show in your face.
The false, the deceit you bear in your heart,
Will not stay inside, where it first got a start.
For sinew and blood are a thin veil of lace;
What you carry in your heart, you wear on your face.
If your life is unselfish, if for others you live,
Not for what you get, but for how much you can give;
If you live close to God, in His infinite grace,
You don't have to tell it, it shows in your face.
~Author Unknown

What example will you be?

For some reason those with recovery are supposed to set an example. For the life of me I can't figure out exactly what example people expect. The example that really matters is staying clean. Some people with years clean cheat on their taxes, cheat on their spouse, spread rumors, are nasty to newcomers and steal. But they still set an example- of not shooting dope or getting drunk
for a long f--king time. I seldom hear anyone express amazement at simply being clean. Hell, it sounds silly sometimes to even mention it. I've been to meetings where they're all talking about not cussing, not smoking and how people with time should be setting a good example of this. They whine about this kind of sh-t and I can't believe it. Not one of them sounds like they have that amazement, that sense of wonder that they're not doing dope anymore. I think, "How sad to not appreciate this miracle." Here these people are with an opportunity to experience joy and freedom and they're whining about bad language and other stupid sh-t. I've been clean longer than some of these peoples' sponsors who talk about this kind of crap. But I'm still amazed that I've went from being near death and not even caring, to where I am today. So, silly or not, I'm sitting here this morning with my coffee and cigarette instead of a needle and I still think it's really f--king cool.
~Author Unknown

As we grow in recovery, we learn...
that we're capable of articulating our needs.
that we no longer need to seek definition from others.
to distinguish between responsibility and guilt.
that sometimes it's necessary to say No.
that we all deserve to be treated with kindness and respect.
that feelings like anger and resentment must be understood and redirected.
what laughter and practicing Goodwill does for Our Soul.
when we're wrong, to build bridges instead of walls.
to overlook others' shortcomings and practice forgiveness.
By doing these things we learn Self-Respect, how to deal with Our Ego, and to Walk the Talk!

Written on the tomb of an Anglican bishop in the crypts of Westminster Abbey:
When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country. But it too seemed immovable. As I grew into my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it. And now as I lay on my deathbed, I suddenly realize If I had only changed myself first, then by example I would have changed my family. From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country and, who knows, I may have even changed the world.
Live the example you want to set.
Welcome again to our site.
Keep Coming Back!!!!
Together We make it.

The great enemy of a clear message is the insincere use of words. People often don't say what they mean or mean what they say. We can employ words to conceal our thoughts and motives. Words can help us move forward or keep us paralyzed. We can deflect words by trivialization. Or manipulate by use of ritualized respect. Our choice of language and tone relate to how we live our lives.

If we're truly living as we claim, it shows. If we're insincere and untrustworthy, at some point that becomes obvious. We can only pretend to live by principles for so long. Do our insides match our outside? A nice car, house, or a high paying job may make us more comfortable, but they do nothing to improve who we are. What we feel, say and do determine who we are and what we will become. Do we keep or betray trust? Do we treat friendship as a sanctity or a weapon? Do we pass judgments and spread them to others? Do we ignore some people, with full intent, out of jealousy, fear, or revenge. Life's about who we love, who we hurt and who we make happy or unhappy purposefully. Everyone that comes into our life has a purpose. We can use our life to touch or poison other hearts in ways that could never occur alone. Only we choose the way those hearts are affected ~with our words and actions.

You don't have to tell how you live each day.
You don't have to say if you work or play.
A tried, true barometer serves in this place;
However you live, it will show in your face.
The false, the deceit you bear in your heart,
Will not stay inside, where it first got a start.
For sinew and blood are a thin veil of lace;
What you carry in your heart, you wear on your face.
If your life is unselfish, if for others you live,
Not for what you get, but for how much you can give;
If you live close to God, in His infinite grace,
You don't have to tell it, it shows in your face.
~Author Unknown

What example will you be?

For some reason those with recovery are supposed to set an example. For the life of me I can't figure out exactly what example people expect. The example that really matters is staying clean. Some people with years clean cheat on their taxes, cheat on their spouse, spread rumors, are nasty to newcomers and steal. But they still set an example- of not shooting dope or getting drunk

for a long f--king time. I seldom hear anyone express amazement at simply being clean. Hell, it sounds silly sometimes to even mention it. I've been to meetings where they're all talking about not cussing, not smoking and how people with time should be setting a good example of this. They whine about this kind of sh-t and I can't believe it. Not one of them sounds like they have that amazement, that sense of wonder that they're not doing dope anymore. I think, "How sad to not appreciate this miracle." Here these people are with an opportunity to experience joy and freedom and they're whining about bad language and other stupid sh-t. I've been clean longer than some of these peoples' sponsors who talk about this kind of crap. But I'm still amazed that I've went from being near death and not even caring, to where I am today. So, silly or not, I'm sitting here this morning with my coffee and cigarette instead of a needle and I still think it's really f--king cool.

~Author Unknown

As we grow in recovery, we learn...
that we're capable of articulating our needs.
that we no longer need to seek definition from others.
to distinguish between responsibility and guilt.
that sometimes it's necessary to say No.
that we all deserve to be treated with kindness and respect.
that feelings like anger and resentment must be understood and redirected.
what laughter and practicing Goodwill does for Our Soul.
when we're wrong, to build bridges instead of walls.
to overlook others' shortcomings and practice forgiveness.
By doing these things we learn Self-Respect, how to deal with Our Ego, and to Walk the Talk!

Written on the tomb of an Anglican bishop in the crypts of Westminster Abbey:

When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country. But it too seemed immovable. As I grew into my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it. And now as I lay on my deathbed, I suddenly realize If I had only changed myself first, then by example I would have changed my family. From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country and, who knows, I may have even changed the world.

Live the example you want to set.

Welcome again to our site.

Keep Coming Back!!!!

Together We make it.